“I dont know what I’m doing, but I know what I’m not,” is the message I heard Iyanla Vanzant imparting to one of her clients during a promo for her show’s new season on OWN. Have you ever had those experiences where something you hear stops you in your tracks as if it was said just for you? I had one of those when listening to her and here’s why:
As I’ve walked down my path I’ve had the understanding of a few things: I know my purpose is to inspire young women to live the life of their dreams. And I know that I’ll use fashion and entertainment to do it. And although I’ve always felt honored to have an understanding of my purpose, I’ve also felt that it was sort of a burden or pressure. Because in all honesty, it is no point in knowing your purpose if you don’t know how to fulfill it. It’s like having a glass and a faucet and not knowing how to use the faucet to fill your glass with water. It’s frustrating. But at the end of the day, you know your glass will be filled because, well, why do you have the glass in the first place?
So when Iyanla said “I don’t know what I’m doing, but I know what I’m not doing” the burden was released from me. And I’m sure for some of you too. Because in all honesty, knowing what you’re not doing (or not supposed to do) is so valuable. Although you may be sitting there waiting for instruction to understand how to fill your glass, it’s great that you’re not running around aimlessly with no tools. You know where you shouldn’t be. And that in itself is something to be very thankful for.
You may not know what every little step to fulfilling your purpose is. But be thankful that you at least know what not to do. Through faith and patience you will be able to fill your glass to the brim.